Earlier today I got a notification that today was my 12 year “friend-iversary” with my wife. 12 YEARS! We talk often about how lucky we feel to have found each other, and luckier still that we haven’t hit a “rut.” It definitely helps that she’s a therapist and applies that skill set to our relationship.
She’d probably be the first to tell you, though, that ruts will happen and that they don’t have to be the end of the world. Recently in the Huffington Post, some relationship experts got together to provide some insights into how to break out of a relationship rut.
1.Call it out – not in an aggressive or overly confrontational way, but don’t shy away from calling it what it is
2.Don’t panic – it’s not the end of the world, and the solutions can be fun
3.Look inward first – it’s healthier for the relationship to not blame your partner without looking at your own behaviors.
There are a few more suggestions they offer, too. It’s all pretty good stuff. You can find more HERE.